About the book
An inspiring life story about the difficulties in breaking patterns, handling and understanding your emotions, and finding the way back to yourself in an overwhelming world. Now available in English, this openhearted book has featured on national television in Sweden.
Thomas Anderson is a Swedish entrepreneur, experienced leader, change manager, and life coach. In the middle of life, he was successful at work and had a family, a nice house, and a rich social life—everything looked good on the outside, and he should have been happy. But on the inside he was in a dark place, a whirlpool of self-doubt, stress, anxiety, and feelings of worthlessness. He was trapped in an emotional prison and self-sabotaging behavior. He still managed to be there for everyone else, in his relationship, with the children, at work—but he didn’t know how to be there for himself, and he was now on the brink of burnout.
At this time, his gut feeling told him that something had to change—this was not the way he wanted to feel for the rest of his life. This marked the beginning of an inner journey, finding the way back to himself. The turning point for Thomas was understanding what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP, as an estimated 15–20 % of us are). All the things he thought and felt, being overwhelmed—it now made sense. He is one of those people who takes in and processes more information; there was nothing wrong with him, he just hadn’t learned how to handle it.
The understanding of HSP and of how to handle emotions gave him courage and confidence in taking action and making the changes he needed in life: setting boundaries and creating space for his recovery and wellbeing, building healthier relationships, understanding his own patterns, taking ownership for his emotions, and facing the unaddressed conflicts. He re-evaluated and healed his past. With a new-found confidence he created the balance he needed in today’s boundless work life. With the tools to manage his emotions and thoughts, he created an inner peace that allows him to handle major life changes and stay centered in day-to-day life.
In this book Thomas openly shares his journey, in his own words from his diary over three years—from the brink of burnout to finding happiness. He shares his doubts, shortcomings, learnings, and experiences, the inner work and the strength that comes from being vulnerable. His purpose with being this open is to be a companion on your own journey to change. When he was in his darkest place he felt completely alone, and it was hard to seek help. But by hearing others share, he could share and break free. He hopes that taking part of his story will help you on your vulnerable journey, breaking free and reclaiming your life.
In The Vulnerable Man you get:
BlueInk review, April, 2021
Although Thomas Anderson had a good job, family and friends, he felt something was missing. He describes his mission to reorder his life in The Vulnerable Man.
This self-help book, Anderson writes, aims to share his path and help readers live a fuller life. He discusses excerpts from his diaries from 2014 to 2018, then explains how those feelings and events reshaped him.
At book’s end, Anderson offers a useful self-reflection workbook with headings such as “Discerning Patterns,” “Vulnerability,” and “Reclaiming Your Life.” He includes lists of questions readers can work on solo or with a group, and for further study, he provides a list of books.
Readers of self-help books have likely encountered many of the lessons found here. Still, Anderson’s candidness is highly relatable, and following even a few of his suggestions can make for positive change.
Book blogger - Saras bokhylla:
In this fantastic book, we get to follow Thomas Anderson on a journey towards a better life. The diary describes the ups and downs that can occur when you live in this society - especially as a man. A man "should be" tough, starting and insensitive according to the norm. Emotions should not be shown on the outside, they should be hidden under the surface.
This book is absolutely amazing. We live in a society full of norms that tell us how to act as human beings. Men should be tough and women should be sensitive. These norms need to be broken and Thomas succeeds in this. He proves that the surface can be perfect with the inside can be a big mess. Being able to follow Thomas' journey provides great insights and you begin to think about how you live your own life. Do I dare to show myself vulnerable? Is there anyone I can talk to?
The storytelling technique is interesting. The diary entries had a personal effect and Thomas' reflections are a very good complement.
I can recommend this book to anyone, regardless of gender. Everyone needs to read this important book and reflect on how they live their lives and what society really looks like.
From Swedish readers:
"I can warmly recommend the book, I started reading and could then not stop. An honest, brave story on an important topic, thank you Thomas for sharing! You have made me feel a less alone."
"The fact that Thomas has chosen to share his diary entries and at the same time reflect on them, means that the layout of the book sets it apart from the crowd. The reader is given a unique empathy in how everyday life can be experienced from a highly sensitive person perspective."
"I liked the book very much. I recognized myself from my own life and the choices I had made, and the book gave me new insights that I could use right away to start making a change. I can highly recommend it."
Responsible publisher: Thomas Anderson